How to Get That One Special Girl – Part 3 – Making the Move on the Girl Without Breaking Your Friend

It’s a difficult problem we all seem to get in; you start feeling for your best friend, or girls close to you who you get along with so well. The problem is, what if they don’t like you back? Fear no longer, for there is a way to determine if she likes you, figure out a way to ask her out if she does like you, and hopefully live happily ever after.

As a start the most important element is to ensure that this girl really IS interested in you in return. This is unfortunately the part where even I myself go wrong, in that you assume because she is fun, flirty and loves to talk to you, that she has an interest in possible dating. The problem is sometimes girls are just like this with every guy, even when they are already happy in a relationship. This is generally because they merely love the attention and thrill of flirting with another guy, even if it will never lead anywhere. Not that girls in relationships are always happy, she may be on the lookout for a better guy, and luckily there is an incredibly simple way to check: Take a look at how she treats other guys. See how she treats her other guy friends, those in your workplace/school and so on. If she doesn’t treat you any different she probably doesn’t have an interest in dating you. That’s not to say she’ll never have an interest in you, just that you shouldn’t make any moves yet.

There are many different situations you may find yourself in, as there are many different types of girls and many different levels you know each other at. So I’ve decided to figure out a generic system which you can use to figure out how to approach in the best possible manner. This is simply coming from my experience with many different girls and unfortunately every situation is different, so take it as a rough guide but don’t live by it, use common sense too J, I’m really just generalizing here so find what best fits your situation and go from there.

There are 3 main categories for a girls social/outgoing level and because of this each type of girl should be treated with a different tact. While outgoing girls might like to go out drinking with you and friends, the shy girls may want something where they don’t need to interact with others so much.

Shy Girl

The shy quiet girls are girls who may only have other female friends and are almost never the center of attention, often spending a night at home or with their girl friends rather than going out drinking. One of the most common situations you will find yourself in with a girl is this one. Quite often it’s that cute girl who looks like she could be really sweet and nice, but you just haven’t gotten to know her, instead simply being an admirer from afar. The problem with this situation is that it’s really hard for it to go anywhere especially if you yourself are very shy. Although there are pluses, generally shy girls will still go out with you even if they don’t particularly like you (this is a good thing, for when you are out together you can bond and perhaps take it further) and usually if you break up afterwards it’s easy to go back to how you were before. Most of the ways of asking her out can feel a bit awkward because shy girls don’t give as much feedback and/or enthusiasm as others, ignore this feeling for its only going to hold you back.

One last thing that many guys fail to realize is that just because shy girls don’t talk much or seem so excitable, doesn’t mean they want something low energy like a stroll along the beach as a first date. Going out to a theme park works very well too, so long as they don’t need to meet random strangers to have fun (ie. Pubs/clubs are generally a bad idea).

Normal Girl

The Normal Girls are the middle of the road girls that are open and talk to everyone, girls and guys alike but won’t usually be the kind of girl all the guys’ desire. Normal girls are some of the most fun girls in the world once you get to know them, like the outgoing girls they generally have a very vivid, strong personality, but like shy girls they do tend to hide it from those they don’t know too well. The thing about this type of girl is that her attraction level to you can greatly vary, and it often has a lot to do with how much interest she gets from the other guys. Unlike shy girls and Outgoing girls, normal girls should be done more on a case per case basis rather than just using a general rule on how to approach and deal with the situation.

For a first date, pretty much anything goes. Clubs may be a bit overwhelming unless they love going out and just dancing, but on the whole generally they are up for anything fun.

Outgoing Girl

The Outgoing girls are generally either hot and as such get a lot of attention, or they are simply the fun, hyperactive girls who love life, being very flirty and out there. Loud Outgoing girls can be by far the most fun however they are also the ones most guys generally get confused by. The reason for this confusion is simply that outgoing fun girls are generally the kind of girls that love to party and are perfectly fine flirting with any guy just for fun (even if they have no interest in dating him). This is why it’s best for any outgoing girl you ensure she treats you differently to other guys, she may be a lot more flirty than the shy girl in the office but that doesn’t mean she likes you more than her.

For a first date the outgoing kind of girl generally likes something with a bit of social interaction, clubbing works well, as does just a general house party of your friends. The Outgoing girls are generally more high energy and like more excitement than most and as such a dinner date doesn’t go down too well (it’s sweet and all, but you will probably find yourself in the *friends zone* with her unless you combine dinner with something else exciting.)

One thing to keep in mind is that because Outgoing girls are by their nature, very outgoing, she will most likely chat to random strangers when out and about (clubs/parties and so on), getting jealous of it will only be detrimental, so you need to be able to let her go and socialize by herself without needing to be the only one talking to her all night long.

The Friendships

Then there are also 3 types of friendships with girls. You can be acquaintances, maybe you just know each other’s names and share small talk, but don’t really hang out at all or have much to do with each other. There are the semi-friends, maybe you’ve been at the same party once or twice, talk a fair bit, and are comfortable around them. Maybe they are even members of your small group of friends but you probably wouldn’t hang out with without inviting everyone out at once, you are probably fine talking to them at school/work but don’t take it much outside there. Then there are the best friends, the girls you can talk too easily, everyone can see you are great friends and you are perfectly fine hanging out with them by yourself or with only 3-4 people out (like at the movies or something).

As an Acquaintance

Liking a girl from afar and sharing very few moments together is honestly not where you want to be in your school/workplace

Getting to know her is sometimes hard especially if you are in completely different social circles as you can’t just walk up and talk to her, and it may be hard to get her alone to talk to. If you feel you can’t talk to her in front of your friends in all honesty you aren’t ready to be making a move on her. If she likes you back she will actually introduce you and chat with you fine around her friends, without being uncomfortable about it. This is a key I think many guys miss, they see a girl they like and try to sort of only chat with her when she’s alone, ignoring her when she’s in her group of friends. This is honestly one of the worst things you can do to get to know her, as not only can you come off as “the weird guy who keeps talking to me when alone”, but even if she does like you she won’t want to date you because her friends don’t approve (and to women, approval of their friends is a huge thing).

That doesn’t mean just give up if you aren’t in her circle of friends, all you really need to do is get to know one or two of her friends as well as her and the rest will take care of itself (seriously), in groups its funny that most people make up their own minds based on the opinions of others, so if 2 or 3 of the girls/guys in the group think you’re a fun, chill, normal person they will all accept you and become friends with you. Not only this, once you are in with her circle of friends her attraction towards you will increase greatly (as you are no longer another random guy but a friend of hers), and she will start to notice you and your best qualities more than ever before.

Oftentimes it’s hard to break into that social circle of her friends but all you really need is one or two friends of hers that you can talk to and everyone else will follow suit.


Honestly the best thing to do in this situation would be to first get to know this girl until you are at a level where you are both comfortable with each other before asking her out. If you aren’t able to strike up a conversation fine in the office/at school it’s going to be monumentally harder on your first date, so just take the time to get to know her and see if you really do like her personality. The great thing about this is that the shy girls are generally the easiest to talk to once you realize that them being quiet doesn’t mean they don’t want to talk to you, it’s simply how they are. Talking isn’t usually as hard because you aren’t fighting for their attention like the more outgoing girls and shy girls don’t generally get that much social interaction so are happy to talk to anybody that comes up and starts a conversation with them.

You can ask her out if you really desire and she will most likely accept out of politeness even if she isn’t all that interested. However this has the problem of if you are both shy people and don’t know each other very well, dating may be incredibly awkward, which is why it’s best to at least be semi friends with her and hang out with her in a group of friends first.

Normal / Outgoing

Normal and Outgoing girls as acquaintances can actually work very well, simply because these girls generally have shorter attention spans and are more high energy than most they will get over things quite quickly if you ask them out and it doesn’t work out. On the flip side, these girls generally have enough social skills to talk to anyone and as such probably have a handful of guys interested in them. This pretty much means it’s a much better idea to actually meet them and their friends first (as said above) before asking her out, although it can work without knowing each other well (if you can tell she’s interested), and if you read the signals wrong and she doesn’t really like you back she will generally get over it pretty quickly.

As a Semi-Friend

This is a great level to be at as you probably know this girl well enough to just chat, go out for drinks with a big group of friends and so on without it being awkward or uncomfortable. It’s probably the best place to be with any girl you have an interest in as not only do you not have the problem of not knowing her well enough to talk to her, but you aren’t stuck in that dreaded *friends only* zone many guys find themselves in when they fall in love with their best friend.

As a semi friend pretty much all girls are very similar in approach, simply flirt with her a bit and see if she does it back then find out if she treats you differently than other guys. After you think she likes you, invite her out with your group of friends for drinks or a fun night out and see what happens, if she shows a great deal of interest in you while out (generally it’s a lot easier to tell if she likes you when out rather than in the office/school as she will be a lot more relaxed) then you can ask her out.

As a Best Friend

Having a female friend as a best friend can be the greatest thing in the world for many guys and this is the core reason I believe you should stay away from dating your best friend. Simply because having a female best friend (or multiple great female friends) and just hanging out them will get you better at interacting and dating women than any book can possibly teach you. Having female friends pays off on many levels, from learning to be comfortable around women, to being able to get advice from them (here’s a tip: the worst advice in the world generally comes from a woman’s mouth, the best advice comes from watching how she reacts to guys and the kind of guys she dates, but more on that in a future email) and to meet your friends friends for potential dating (hell, often female friends will set you up on dates with their friends themselves). It’s because of all these reasons that I’d highly recommend not dating your best friends unless you are almost certain she would love to date you.

Dating the Best friend is one of the true romantic stories and often can work out that way, they key is not to get it into your head that dating the best friend doesn’t ALWAYS work out, all it takes is some keen observational skills and being able to take an objective view of the situation (as it is) rather than a subjective (how you believe it should be).

If she asks for your opinion on how to talk to a guy, tells you about guys she likes or ever says you are like her “big brother” or something along those lines (as in someone she wouldn’t date) you don’t have a chance (actually you do, but it’s probably

How to Pick Up Girls on the Internet

Picking up girls is a passion of mine and if you are a red blooded male then I am sure it is for you as well. There are lots of places where you can pick up girls and one of my favourites is the internet. In this article I will give some great ideas on how to pick up girls on the internet which have worked well for me.

If you are reading this then you obviously have some sort of skill with the internet otherwise I doubt whether you will have found the article. As such I am not going to give you any advice on using the internet but I will give you some ideas on how to make the internet work for you. There are lots of places where you can spend hundreds and hundreds of dollars but I prefer cheaper methods so will only touch on those ideas.

Firstly I suggest you set up a chat account somewhere with someone like Yahoo or MSN chat. In fact why not do both. If there is a more popular messenger service where you are than either of those two then set one up there as well. You will need this to keep in contact with the girls once you have located them. Chat rooms are totally free as is your messenger account. Once you have obtained the girls messenger address you can chat with her for free for as long as you like. So do that straight away.

The next thing I would do is find a dating site that has a chat facility built in. Just do a search in Google, Yahoo or MSN Live for dating sites. Have a look at a few of them and choose a few that have girls you like the look of. There are sites for Asian Women or Russian women etc etc etc. If you are into those sorts of girls then pick one of them. You can also find different types of girls in the other dating sites as well. Whatever takes your fancy will be catered for.

I am not a big fan of the dating sites that charge you for each message you send so I prefer to find one that has a monthly membership or allows you a set time for a set amount of money. This way you can send lots of messages to as many girls as you want and get their messenger contact details. Another thing I like to do is to write my message, or several messages into a word document. I then cut and paste that into the chat area of the site, or in the instant message section. This allows me to send a lot of messages all at once and costs me nothing extra.

Get yourself organised and set up a system and follow it. Write a fantastic bio about yourself and be as honest as possible. If you are really overweight, telling the girls you are slim or 20 years younger than you really are will only result in them running away as soon as they see you.

So there are a few tips on how to pick up girls on the internet. Put them into action or develop your own techniques.

How To Impress A Girl On Chat?

We live in a virtual age. People like to go to Facebook or other means of chatting tools to meet people. Additionally, dating online has become more popular in recent years than before. Have you even met some girls online and tried to chat with them so as to develop into a physical dating relationship? What are the secret tips on how to impress a girl?

Here is a list of tips; by reading and learning them, you will become an expert to impress a girl via chat.

Design your Facebook

You can organize and design your Facebook containing some contents like a blog, some love poetry, photos showing where you have been and how you like brilliant and adventurous things, of course more importantly, you need an impressive title to give your contact a brief description of you. But don’t design your Facebook with too many words or pictures, and it will make the potential readers or girls feel that you are sort of complicated and a show off as a person.

Be confident on chat

If you find someone in the virtual community, you can start to invite her to go your Facebook. Keep in mind when chatting online, the feelings which you might gain from a physical presence is very different. A charming or cheerful chatting attitude online doesn’t mean in reality the person has the same personality. No matter what personality the person on the other end has, you should hold your confidence in chatting to convince the girl on the other end that you are an impressive and intimidating man.

Be interesting on chat

Girls don’t like man tooting their own horn excessively and they don’t like disinteresting and tedious conversation through the whole chat. Be inquisitive about what the girl is chatting about is the best way to gain more attention from the girl, she will be hooked and is willing to stay online longer with you so that you can develop a physical meeting in person.

Be a caring man on chat

You can’t hold the girl for too long or she will be easily tired and lose interest to chat with you next time. Being a caring man on chat always, you can ask her feelings about work or study, cheer her up if she feels stressful at work, and remind her of driving safe back home. All those attitudes will show a sign of you are a warm and caring man.

Be an inquisitive man on chat

A webcam chat will draw both of you from two ends more closely. And this means seems that the girl just stands in front of you, you might feel excited and have an impulse to touch and kiss her. However, don’t be too rushed to see her on webcam, but when she feels it necessary she will put her real face on the screen once you have built a rapport.

Overall, impressing a girl via chat in a virtual community is an adventurous life experience. Nowadays many men like to go online to find their girlfriend or partner. But you should always warn yourself not to trust anyone and behave naïvely. Both of you should always show each other you are genuinely charming. Eventually both of you will win each other over and be together one day!